Whose speaking into your Mic?
Test, Testing, Testing 1,2,3. Is this thing on?
Last night I was setting up a new Microphone that I will be using for a Workshop in the fall, which for someone who is not mechanically inclined was far more difficult than it really should have been, As I was trying to ensure that everything sounded ok I realized how important a soundcheck is and why you always see them being done.
What I really thought about though, as I was trying to make myself sound like I was not standing in a tin room, was not just what the sound was like in that microphone but what the sound was like in my minds microphone and more importantly who I was allowing to speak into it.
We have an amazing sound system in our minds, I mean we're talking the top-of-the-line Dolby system, and it picks up and records almost every word that goes into it. It does skip the important things like why you walked into a room, and what that new password is, but it records all of the messages that you are hearing from everyone around you. This is why you need to be very protective of who it is that you pass your Mic to.
We can be very prone to just handing over our Microphones and allowing people to speak whatever messages that they want into our minds. Now, this isn't necessarily a bad thing if the person that you give your microphone to has the right things to say. But unfortunately, many times that is not the case. We give people the opportunity to speak about things that are completely out of alignment with what we are feeling or trying to accomplish in our lives. After a while, the volume and repetition of those messages can drown out all of the other beautiful messages that we have been trying to broadcast.
So how do we protect our peace? How do we control the recordings that are being inputted into our minds?
1. Well, the first thing you can do is become extremely selective on who you pass your mic to. You have every right to choose who, when and how someone has influence on your thoughts and you need to allow yourself to be protective over your mind.
We tend, especially as women to feel like we shouldn't be rude, and that we should listen to what everyone has to say, if for no other reason than to be polite. Well, Screw That! It is not rude to protect who you are allowing to influence you. It's funny how as parents we are far more concerned about who is having influence in our children's lives, and whether that influence is positive or negative. We would never want someone speaking negative thoughts or ideas into our childs' mind yet we will sit politely while it happens to us.
2. If you can't take the mic away from the person, turn down the volume or limit their mic time. Sometimes the fact is that there are going to be people, probably family, that do not always have the most positive things to say, and they are the ones who feel the least shame in saying those things. When people feel like they know what is in the best interests of someone they typically feel justified in saying just about anything. Ashamedly, I can honestly say that I have been guilty of this many times (sorry kids).
If you are in a situation where you can't eliminate these people from your lives, and you know that there are times when they are going to have access to your microphone, then you just have to learn to be able to turn down the volume on it.
How do you do that? Well, I have learned to limit the amount of time that I spend with those people and I have learned to take control of the conversations and shift them when need be. And if I am in a situation where neither of those things is possible, I will plan my grocery list in my mind while politely smiling away as if I'm listening attentively. After the conversation is over, I will hit delete on the recording by reinforcing my beliefs that prove those thoughts wrong, or I will record over it with my own affirmations, and make sure that the last recording my mind has ended with, is the message I want it to have. In this way, I am always ensuring that after I take my mic back I disinfect the hell out of it!
It is my sincere hope for you that when you are able to reach that point where you understand the value of protecting your mental peace, that you will develop the habit of doing a thorough soundcheck of your personal microphone. You have the power to choose, so choose the sounds that are sweetest to your ears.